We Think We Don’t Care About Our Looks But We Actually Do

(and we should)

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I hear it all the time in my work with women:

• “I don’t care how my body looks.”
• “I’m not concerned with appearances. That’s superficial. I’m worried about deeper things.”
• “I’m fine with my body. I don’t have ‘body image issues’ .”

I heard it all the time from my own internal voice years ago, too.

I was convinced that having feelings based on the way my body looked was shallow and that I should be “above” that.

So I told myself (and others) I didn’t care.

Lots of women do this.

Most of us are probably pretending for the aforementioned reasons.

Some of us might *actually* mean it, though.
We don’t care.
We’re genuinely indifferent about the way that we look.
We don’t even think about our bodies, honestly.
They’re just there.

And some of us wear that indifference like a badge, saying, “Look at me! I’m not superficial!”

And others of us are completely oblivious to our own unawareness.